What to say and,not to say, when someone tells you they have cancer

"I've just been diagnosed with cancer."

1. You are strong, you got this.

2. What can I do?

3. Do not offer advice on treatment

Instead, say this . . .

1. I'm so sorry!

2. I will check in with you to see what you need. (And actually do it). Take them dinner, walk their dog, clean their house, sit and just listen to them.

3. I will support whatever treatment you decide is best for you.